![]() BE A FRIENDT.C.A. Avni BE A FRIEND By Selina Yoon Year 2016, pp. 40, Rs.199.00 VOLUME XL NUMBER 11 November 2016 As that old song goes ‘Everybody needs somebody’—someone
who understands and accepts you as you are, and can enter
into your schemes and plans. The ‘someone’ in question need
not be a romantic partner—often our closest relationships can be
with a friend, who stands with you through thick or thin, and just
gets you. But the corollary to this is that
because our friendships are with people
we can relate to, those to whom we can’t
often get treated as outsiders and can feel
isolated and alone. And the divisions between
‘us’ and ‘them’ can be such small
and ultimately inconsequential things—
skin tone, accent, nationality, hobbies. Be A Friend is a book which
explores this idea—what happens to a child who is different from
others, and processes the world in a manner other kids his/her age
can’t relate to. They feel excluded and get isolated from others, making
their world a fairly lonely one. The barriers may even be selfconstructed
and therefore perpetuating—because something serves
to make them feel different, they can’t identify with others and viceversa,
making reaching out harder and harder as small things form a
chasm which widens. Young Dennis is one such case—he is a wonderfully
expressive boy, but one who mimes and acts, rather than
speaks. An evocative sentence to express this is which describes how
while some children would enjoy climbing trees, Dennis would be
happy to BE the tree. But miming can be a lonely life, as no one can
quite understand and relate to him, and even a Tree needs company.
His life takes a turn for the better when he meets Joy, and the little
girl who sees the world the way he does—she can catch the imaginary
balls he kicks, and play with him on make-believe swings. Their
friendship forms the bridge through which Dennis is able to play
with other kids as well. Selina Yoon does an amazing job with the
text and illustrations—they are lively with attention to detail, and
are descriptive enough to allow people to see what actions are intended
when Dennis is miming. The story can serve as a medium to
sensitize children to accepting differences in others, and can even be
used to help discuss children who may be ‘differently abled’ and
who often find it difficult to convey their ideas and ... Table of Contents >> |